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How true is this video? Do black women set the bar and standards like this?

Before you say no, think about a show like “What Chilli Wants” on VH1 who goes through her “check list,” a list of things she needs in a man as well as things she won’t tolerate.

As she runs through her list, Chilli’s man can’t smoke, drink, eat pork, washboard abs, and no more than two baby mamas. He’s also must be fine with a huge package as she puts it.

But do these type of men really exist? Are her standards unrealistic?

In watching the YouTube clip, called “Black Marriage Negotiations,” some sit nodding their heads in agreement while others get incensed that it perpetuates stereotypes of black women.

This week I listened to an iTunes podcast that interviewed Darroll Lawson, 40, an information-technology consultant living in Atlanta, where he said he created the video to drive traffic to his website, PhilosoG, where he and his friend Billy Briggs talk about “empowering men to empower families.” He made some good points and can’t fault him for the video.

Minus the materialistic needs or wants, is there something that underlies these “negotiations” that isn’t spoken about? College enrollment among African-American males lags behind that of Black women, and graduation rates for Black men are the lowest of any ethnic group, according to the “Annual Status Report on Minorities in Higher Education,” study released by the American Council on Education

According to the organization, two decades ago, 30 percent of Black male high school graduates enrolled in college, compared to 28 percent of Black females. Recent studies found that the percentage of Black male high school graduates going to college has increased to 37 percent while the number of Black female high school graduates has grown to 42 percent.

However, just 35 percent of Black males enrolled in college graduate within six years compared to 45 percent of Black females, 59 percent of White males and 46 percent of Hispanic men who entered college the same year.

So, what do you think? Is there something to all of this?

When I watched the video and saw the woman rattling off her extensive list of demands, I didn’t think much about it. I just giggled to myself. What did you do?